Expat life realities
Let’s be honest – expat life can sometimes be hard. It’s not all a bed of roses over a cocktail in the afternoon. Sometimes you get lonely; sometimes it’s hard to meet people and make friends; sometimes you just want to go home; sometimes you want to cry into your badly-made Lipton’s cup of tea.
One of the most inspiring people I’ve met in my journey out here in the USA is Allegra Stein, who is a life coach who focuses on expat life and how to find the positive in it.
There was a time a few months ago where I felt overwhelmed with all that I had taken on – fitness, nutrition, acting, writing, having a social life, travel in the USA, psychology degree, blogging, being a wife and mother, etc etc and I didn’t know how to resolve my internal conflicts and I became quite negative. I wanted a fulfilling and joyful expat life, but I couldn’t see how to achieve what I wanted to for myself and my family. (Desperate Housewife confession time! )
Speaking with Allegra (for over an hour), she set me a few tasks and I began to remove some of the things in my life that were dragging me down. It was like a brand new light in my life and I began to see things much more clearly. It’s been a liberating process and I’m so glad I had the chance to work with Allegra.
Therefore, I interviewed her for Global Living Magazine so that you can also share in her expertise and wise words.
If you want to read it, you can access it via this link.
Here are a few extracts to entice you!
‘The best advice I ever got was from Allegra Stein, an expat life coach, who told me to remove these negative experiences from my life, and she was right because it made a huge difference to me not be exposed to this way of thinking.’
‘So much of who we are can be uprooted and shifted around when we move; the discomfort of that can be heightened even more when we don’t understand why we’re struggling so much.’
‘My favorite advice for meeting new people is this: Do what you love. If you’re trying to find your new best friend, stop. Start doing what you love and the friends will follow.’
‘ The first step is simply awareness – to take the blame off of our city / partner / job / boxes / messy house /etc. and accept that we alone are responsible for how we feel and what we do with our lives. This is both the most liberating and most difficult part of the work.’
‘What I expect from my clients is a willingness to play all-out – to be curious, compassionate and vulnerable, to be open to change, challenge, discomfort and creativity.’
I totally live by all of the above now – and it rocks my expat world! (And I have time to pursue my dreams AND be a Desperate Housewife! 😉 )
This. Enjoy 😉